Successful, dependable, the one everyone leans on. Yet you’re running on patterns you never chose: keeping everyone happy, struggling to say no, pushing on until your body forces you to stop. Over twelve weeks, we look at every area of your life and trace where those patterns come from.
This is what we work towards together. How far you go is partly up to you.
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You know where your pattern comes from.
Not as theory, but in your own story: your family, your background, the role you took on early in life.
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You notice it before it takes over.
You recognise the moment you are about to say yes again, push through or take control of everything. And you choose differently.
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You say no without justifying yourself.
Your own needs get a real place in your life, not just whatever is left over.
04
You make decisions for yourself again, too.
At work, in your family and in your relationship. More clearly, and with less guilt.
Who will walk alongside you
I’m Jan. I grew up in Frankfurt without my father. I was successful in sales and unhappy at the same time. For more than ten years now, I have worked with people, above all women who hold everything together. In German and English, online, wherever you live.
Talking about the past explains a great deal. It doesn’t automatically change how you decide tomorrow.
Tools don’t hold under pressure.
Routines and techniques help while things are calm. When it matters, the old pattern takes over.
One area is never the whole picture.
Work only on your career or only on your relationship, and you miss that the pattern runs through everything.
I listen. I ask. And then I tell you honestly what I see.
Jan Poulev, founder of Human Circle Coaching
The framework
Der Human Circle
Twelve areas of your life, one system. From your biology and your family’s ancestral matrix to your nervous system, we find out where a pattern began and where it shows up today.
Built from more than ten years of working with people.
Move each slider to where you are today. 0 means nothing works here. 10 means you’re genuinely satisfied. Your circle shows you straight away where things are stuck.
Not a test and not a diagnosis. A snapshot for our conversation. Your answers stay in your browser.
Path A · The core
The 12-week intensive programme.
Individual, in depth and built around you. No course, no group, no template. Twelve weeks to find the pattern, understand it and change how you respond to it.
The whole person, not just the problem
Work, family, origins, body and relationships are connected. We work across all twelve areas, not just the one you came with.
Your personal assessment
Before our first session, you receive a letter in which I reflect back what I see.
Someone who tells you the truth
I tell you what I see. Clearly, without softening it.
Your own workbook
Material written for you alone, plus WhatsApp support between sessions.
Progress you can see
At the start, at six weeks and at the end, you record where you stand, so you can see in black and white what has shifted.
How it works
01
Discovery Call
We get to know each other and see whether we’re the right fit. No obligation.
02
Your assessment
After the questionnaire, you receive a letter reflecting back what I see, before our first session.
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Twelve weeks together
Live sessions on Zoom, your workbook, and WhatsApp between sessions.
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Midpoint review
Halfway through, we look at what has shifted and adjust course.
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Completion
A look back at where you started and a clear view of what comes next.
For women who have completed the 12-week programme and want to carry the Human Circle further: for themselves, as a coach, or as a method for leadership and organisations.
For organisations
The Human Circle as a leadership method: recognising patterns in teams, distributing responsibility clearly, making decisions free of old loyalties. Enquiries start with a personal conversation.
There was a time when I lay awake at night next to my wife and no longer understood her. I did what a decent man does. I helped and suggested solutions. None of it worked, and in the end there was only silence between us.
Today I know what was happening. In this book, I wrote down my own story and everything I have learnt as a coach about men, women and relationships. It is the book I needed back then.
Get the bookAlso in German: Hormone, Hölle, Happy End
My wife is Mona Poulev, a women’s health expert. She tells her side of the story in ‘The Invisible Decade’. Both books are available together as His & Hers.
About me
I’m Jan.
I grew up in Frankfurt am Main at a time when many people simply called it “Krankfurt” – sick Frankfurt. In the middle of the city lay one of the largest open drug scenes in Europe. Growing up there, you learnt early to keep your eyes open and stand your ground.
Home was no easier. My parents’ marriage was over long before they separated. When I was ten, my father moved to Paris. I never really got to know him. Much of what I see in others today, I know from my own life.
I have always loved helping people. Today I would say my mother raised me well.
I knew I wanted to be a coach as early as 2003. Everyone said: “You’re not a psychologist, you can’t do that.” I never wanted to be a psychologist. I wanted to be a coach. Even so, I ended up in sales. The money was great; my life was not.
Then my wife Mona said to me: “At every convention, at every event, people come to you. You simply talk with them, and it moves them. It’s time you did exactly that.” Because it came from her, it meant the world to me. I have been doing exactly that ever since.
I have no bachelor’s degree, no master’s, no diploma. What I bring is more than 30 years of working with people from very different backgrounds and cultures. And my own life.
I have been married since 2010, and our son was born in 2020. I work with people in German and English, online, wherever they live.
With his really honest, clear and likeable manner, Jan turned everything around with me […]. And he was always there. I never felt I had to go through it alone.
Melissa H.
ProvenExpert, July 2023
When I compare the first and the last day of our work together, I feel like a new person.
Juliane
ProvenExpert, July 2024
He was able to help me very quickly to shift my perspective […], so that I felt able to go from being driven to taking charge. I have grown a great deal personally through it.
W.
ProvenExpert, December 2023
Excerpts from reviews on ProvenExpert, translated from German; omissions marked […].
Straight talk first
Who this is for. And who it isn’t for.
It’s for you if
you carry a lot, at work, at home or both, and notice your pattern costs you more than it gives you.
you’re ready to take an honest look for twelve weeks.
you want someone who tells you what he sees.
It’s not for you if
you want a quick technique to use in between.
you want someone who tells you what you want to hear.
you’re in an acute crisis right now. Then medical or therapeutic care comes first.
Frequently asked questions
Is this therapy?
No. I’m a coach. I help you recognise your patterns and decide differently. If you need treatment, I’ll tell you openly.
How do the sessions take place?
Online on Zoom, wherever you live, in German or English.
How much time do I need?
Twelve sessions over twelve weeks, plus time for your workbook. Between sessions, you can reach me on WhatsApp.
What does the programme cost?
We discuss that in the Discovery Call, once it’s clear whether and how I can help you.
What if I’m not sure yet?
Apply anyway. In our conversation, we’ll take our time to see whether now is the right moment.
What happens to my details?
I read every application myself. I only use your details to process your application and treat them confidentially.
Application
The first step is a conversation.
Apply for your complimentary Discovery Call. I read every application myself and reply personally.
“We don’t build trust by offering help. We build trust by asking for it.”
